http://www.BreakupBrad.com -- Why Your Ex Gives You The 'Hot & Cold' Treatment (Mixed Messages Explained!)
If you’ve been there yourself, you know how frustrating this can be… it’s like they’ve got your emotions attached to a yo-yo, giving you plenty of hope one day and then crushing those hopes shortly thereafter.
So, the first thing you should understand is that this type of behavior is completely normal… your ex isn’t weird or unique because he or she gives you a positive vibe one day and then seems cold or completely indifferent the next. In my experience, women tend to be more likely to send these kinds of mixed messages after a breakup, but men are definitely guilty as well. The bottom line is that it’s very common.
Secondly, before I jump into talking about why they’re doing this and what it means, I want to warn you about trying to read too much into your ex’s actions… sure, sometimes you can get a genuine idea of your ex’s feelings by reading between the lines, but it’s also very easy to overanalyze or misinterpret things. I’ve got a video specifically dedicated to this topic, so for now I’ll just say this: try not to spend all your time thinking about things your ex has said or done, re-reading their texts and snooping their Facebook wall. That kind of stuff isn’t going to get you any closer to winning them back, so it’s always better to focus on the things you can control than to stress about what your ex is doing or saying.
OK, now, back to the topic at hand… you want to know why your ex keeps giving you the ‘hot and cold’ treatment, and what the hell it means for your chances of getting back together.
Well, typically this type of back-and-forth attitude is a result of your ex’s own internal struggles. He or she has obviously decided – at least rationally and consciously – that your relationship isn’t worth pursuing, hence the breakup. But just because they’ve chosen to end the relationship doesn’t mean that your ex isn’t having second thoughts or struggling to adapt to life without you. They’re probably just as heartbroken about the breakup as you are, and, just like you, they’re on a bit of an emotional roller coaster ride. Surely you’ve had your ups and downs since the breakup as well, right? When you’re out with your friends, having fun, everything seems OK… no crying, no sitting around thinking about how much life sucks, and so on. But an hour later, when you’re alone and your friends are no longer around to distract you, those emotions can sometimes come flooding back, and all of a sudden you feel the heartbreak and loneliness again.
Your ex is experiencing the same emotional roller coaster… one minute they’re feeling confident about their decision to break up with you, because life is going well, their mind is occupied, and they’re not feeling the post-breakup emotions. The next minute, they’re alone, missing you like crazy, and they cave in to these emotions and pick up their phone to call you or send you a text.
Taking advantage of your ex’s uneasiness and uncertainty about the decision to end your relationship is a key component of my Ex Factor Guide program, so if your ex is giving off the hot and cold messages, then head over to www.BreakupBrad.com and check out my free video… in it I talk more about how to overpower your ex’s logical, rational thinking and tap into their emotions, hopefully leading them to cave in and ask you to get back together and give the relationship another shot. Again, the address for that video is BreakupBrad.com. I’ll put that link in the description below as well.
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